Empaths and Relationships

Draining

For an empath a relationship can be our worst nightmare. Not that we don't want that closeness, connection, and love. Its because we attract the worst kind of relationships. We become their, what I refer to, mommy. We are natural caregivers and with that we take care of everyone else first and put ourselves last. We don't take time for us because we feel guilty for it. This is why often times we choose to be single. When we are single we don't have to take care of others we can have time for us. Though we almost always find someone who needs us to take care of them. Once you start to own your power relationships get easier and you can, with boundaries, make one work.

We are notorious for attracting every kind of wrong relationship there is. Which means the most messed up people are attracted to us. We make people feel go just by being with them. They feel safe and loved. Because we do love them. They want us to heal them, but most of the time don't want to do the work. There are addicts that want us to make the addiction go away. People that bounce in and out of jail. They want us by their side, but don't want to change. There are co-dependents that want us to be as obsessed with them as they are with us. But they don't want to give energy they want to take it. Its like they are closed off from giving and have a vacuum sucking our energy. We have the narcissist that turn all bad they do into your fault. They drain you energy and make your self esteem very low. They to have a sucking vacuum affect, taking your energy and not giving any.

Since we are natural caregivers and healers we feel the persons emotional or physical pain and want to fix them. Unfortunately a lot of the time they don't want to be fixed. They "feed" off our energy. Leaving us feeling drained and sucked dry. This is where being a conscious empath would come in handy. You could feel your energy being sucked dry and set your boundaries. This includes getting a good distance away from the person. With being able to feel this you and conserve your energy, feel more alive and far less sleepy. Then you can start to attract someone who will respect your needs.

We know

We are usually right about what we feel or '"know" is happening weather they want to admit it or not. Because we are in the most messed up relationships a lot of what we "know" and feel can be on a subconscious level for them. They are not going to admit it because they don't even know it is there. Or they don't want to own up to it. Often they will turn your feelings against you and make you feel like you can't trust yourself and what you are picking up on. Don't let someone​ make you feel like the messed up one. Trust what you feel in the end you will find out you were right. Stand in your power, own it.

Promises

We absolutely cannot​ stand broken promises​. We give and give and then give more and when someone breaks a promise it is the end of the world. To us it feels that they just didn't care. This may be true, but what you are really picking up on is they don't care as much as you do. They don't get how broken promises really hurt people. They can't feel it like we do. Also you ego could be stepping in. Becoming a conscious empath is controlling your ego. You also will start to tell others how much they hurt you.

Insecurities

We cannot stand insecurities being put on us. As a subconscious empath you are going to attract people that are not secure in their being. Which means they will want you to stroke their ego to make them feel better and you probably will. As you become more of a conscious empath you will back away from that. It is not health and does not assist in healing. If you truly want to help them you can help them see it is an ego thing they are dealing with. Help them start to release their ego. Now if you really like something they do, but they are insecure about it. Then by all mean say something and give them a confendance boost.

Time alone

You need to take care of you too. You cannot be there for someone 24/7 if your not taking care of your needs. You will end up drained. This could lead to the end of your relationship. You need time to you to recharge your energy. The other person will just have to respect that. It is best to be in a different room. For the sole reason that the other person could say they respect you needing to be in your energy, but they are still pulling on your energy field. This could be a subconscious need to be next to you or a conscious need. Either way it will drain you instead of charge you.

Crowds

Sometimes going out to a crowded area is the last thing you want. This is because you feel the whole rooms energy. There is a group energy and there is each persons energy. Subconsciously they know your power and they will come into your energy and take as they please. Some will give back to you, but overall it is more take. This is very draining. You need to shield in this situation. Just see a cord going into the Earth, anchor in to the crystal core of the Earth. Then see your aura golden,  also put golden arches in the front, back, and each side.