Empaths and Anger

As an empathy being angry will cause us to pull back from the situation. We don't want to feel angry and we sure don't want to feel others anger. So we pull back and do whatever we need to do to solve the issue. Perhaps we give in and let the other person have there way because then we only feel our emotions. Or we pull way back and become emotionless to the whole situation. Saying it doesn't matter anymore. When the emotions get to thick that we just feel like we are being chocked. The anxiety sets in and we can't breathe. Our typical survival mode would be to become emotionless.

When dealing with others anger it can be very hard to remain calm and hold a space for them to express themselves. We feel their anger and become angry ourselves. Then we are dealing with double the anger.  We empaths are here to allow others to vent as we ground or transmute the energy.

A trick I use when dealing with others anger, mainly my son's, is to ground myself and pull my aura in tight to my body. Then keep a distance from them and anyone else, a few feet should do. I keep asking myself what am I feeling. As long as I hold a calm mind I can get closer and be able to sit and hold a space for him to just vent. Letting others talk or yell it out is best. Do not allow your ego to get involved. This will trigger your anger and now your open to feel their anger as well. This can only lead to an explosion of anger.

If you explode you should get away from everyone. Go to the bathroom if you have to. Do grounding and put all of the emotions into the Earth. Ask yourself ​why you are mad and how can this be solved. Get out of your ego and back into a space of love. Focus on the heart center. You can even see a time you experienced pure love. This quickly moves you from anger vibration to love vibration.

Go back to the person now vibrating at the level of love. Express your feelings. Then propose your solutions. Now shut up and step into the empath power. Allow them to vent. Stay grounded and "see" their feelings either going into the ground or being transmuted (changed) into light. The violet flame is very useful for this.