Empath Teaching #1 Being Independent

 Stepping into your Empath Power part 1

As an empath I have reached a level of control that I can just know others emotions instead of having to feel them. You can reach this level too by following some of my other writings on empaths. Basically you have to allow yourself to feel everything. As hard as it is you have to feel it and start to notice your emotions from others. Asking yourself a lot is this my feeling or someone else's? Time to yourself is also important to know your emotional state. After awhile of getting to know the difference of your emotions and others the feeling of their emotions fades into a knowing. At this point we can teach others how to feel. That is one reason we are here. Others need to know it is ok to feel their emotions. More importantly they need to learn how to feel their emotions and how to get control of themselves.

I am in constant observation of others feelings. The number one thing I have noticed is people give their power away to everyone. They do this by allowing another to control their emotions. Constantly worried about what others think or feel about them. Worried if they are right or wrong and how others will react to this. This is done on a subconscious level and has its roots deep in the ego. 

First we will talk about the ego. The ego is a subconscious program that is like an over barring mother. It does what it thinks is best for you, but really is trying to control your life. This program gets its information on how you should behave, think, and act from many sources. The tv, social interaction, books, and of course karmic programming all play a part in this ego program.

The ego is to blame for all of our guilt, shame, sadness, anger, fear... The ego looks at a situations as either good or bad. It is is bad it will start to play stories in your head. The ego can even make you see reality as an exaggeration.

Example: A couple is laying in bed. One person has an overactive ego the other has been working to control the ego. The one with a little more control has a itch and moves their leg to itch. The one with an overactive ego has had ego chatter about out there lover doesn't want to be near them. They then  literally sees this as the person yanking their leg away form them. The ego them goes into action telling stories and altering memories to support the feels of the other not wanting to be around them.

The ego will keep you in this low vibrational state until you choose to stop listening to its chatter. Now the ego program is like most programs we run and wants to stay running. This is its job, to keep us living unconsciously. Our job is to start to live consciously. In doing this we need to get control of our ego. We need to talk things out with others. We need to question the ego chatter. Going back to the example above it the one with the overactive ego asks the right questions or states things in a healthy manner, meaning no blame towards the other, they can come to see what is actually happening. The two can explain their actions and control the ego. Remembering the reality is different for everyone and is seen form your personal vibrational state.

The ego in this situation is keeping this person in a dependent state. The ego is making the person think that if their lover doesn't want to be around or touched by them then they are worthless. This couldn't be farther from the truth the person lived without them until they got together and the person will if there is a break up. The ego doesn't want them to see this truth though. The ego will keep running this dependent program until it is consciously recognized and dealt with. The person has to step into their own power. They are the only person the need, others are great, but do not define who them.