Empaths and Relationships

Draining

For an empath a relationship can be our worst nightmare. Not that we don't want that closeness, connection, and love. Its because we attract the worst kind of relationships. We become their, what I refer to, mommy. We are natural caregivers and with that we take care of everyone else first and put ourselves last. We don't take time for us because we feel guilty for it. This is why often times we choose to be single. When we are single we don't have to take care of others we can have time for us. Though we almost always find someone who needs us to take care of them. Once you start to own your power relationships get easier and you can, with boundaries, make one work.

We are notorious for attracting every kind of wrong relationship there is. Which means the most messed up people are attracted to us. We make people feel go just by being with them. They feel safe and loved. Because we do love them. They want us to heal them, but most of the time don't want to do the work. There are addicts that want us to make the addiction go away. People that bounce in and out of jail. They want us by their side, but don't want to change. There are co-dependents that want us to be as obsessed with them as they are with us. But they don't want to give energy they want to take it. Its like they are closed off from giving and have a vacuum sucking our energy. We have the narcissist that turn all bad they do into your fault. They drain you energy and make your self esteem very low. They to have a sucking vacuum affect, taking your energy and not giving any.

Since we are natural caregivers and healers we feel the persons emotional or physical pain and want to fix them. Unfortunately a lot of the time they don't want to be fixed. They "feed" off our energy. Leaving us feeling drained and sucked dry. This is where being a conscious empath would come in handy. You could feel your energy being sucked dry and set your boundaries. This includes getting a good distance away from the person. With being able to feel this you and conserve your energy, feel more alive and far less sleepy. Then you can start to attract someone who will respect your needs.

We know

We are usually right about what we feel or '"know" is happening weather they want to admit it or not. Because we are in the most messed up relationships a lot of what we "know" and feel can be on a subconscious level for them. They are not going to admit it because they don't even know it is there. Or they don't want to own up to it. Often they will turn your feelings against you and make you feel like you can't trust yourself and what you are picking up on. Don't let someone​ make you feel like the messed up one. Trust what you feel in the end you will find out you were right. Stand in your power, own it.

Promises

We absolutely cannot​ stand broken promises​. We give and give and then give more and when someone breaks a promise it is the end of the world. To us it feels that they just didn't care. This may be true, but what you are really picking up on is they don't care as much as you do. They don't get how broken promises really hurt people. They can't feel it like we do. Also you ego could be stepping in. Becoming a conscious empath is controlling your ego. You also will start to tell others how much they hurt you.

Insecurities

We cannot stand insecurities being put on us. As a subconscious empath you are going to attract people that are not secure in their being. Which means they will want you to stroke their ego to make them feel better and you probably will. As you become more of a conscious empath you will back away from that. It is not health and does not assist in healing. If you truly want to help them you can help them see it is an ego thing they are dealing with. Help them start to release their ego. Now if you really like something they do, but they are insecure about it. Then by all mean say something and give them a confendance boost.

Time alone

You need to take care of you too. You cannot be there for someone 24/7 if your not taking care of your needs. You will end up drained. This could lead to the end of your relationship. You need time to you to recharge your energy. The other person will just have to respect that. It is best to be in a different room. For the sole reason that the other person could say they respect you needing to be in your energy, but they are still pulling on your energy field. This could be a subconscious need to be next to you or a conscious need. Either way it will drain you instead of charge you.

Crowds

Sometimes going out to a crowded area is the last thing you want. This is because you feel the whole rooms energy. There is a group energy and there is each persons energy. Subconsciously they know your power and they will come into your energy and take as they please. Some will give back to you, but overall it is more take. This is very draining. You need to shield in this situation. Just see a cord going into the Earth, anchor in to the crystal core of the Earth. Then see your aura golden,  also put golden arches in the front, back, and each side.

Empaths and Sleep

For empaths sleep is essential. We are out there doing work that is very draining on all levels. It doesn't matter if you are a conscious empath or not the work of grounding and transmutting energy is draining. On the emotional level for obvious reasons, we are overloaded with emotions. The mental level because everyone is wanting advice or to vent to us. Spiritual level because this is where the work of grounding and transmutting (changing into light) takes place. Last but not least the physical level because some take on physical symptoms of others or have anxiety do to too much emotions​ coming in.

This is much less draining for a conscious empath because they know when they need space or ground their energy. Conscious empaths have also set boundaries (see my post on that Empaths Setting Boundaries) to help from burn out. Conscious empaths listen to their body and know when enough is enough. They watch for early warning signs that overload is coming. Then they are proactive on getting themselves in a state they need to be in. Either alone time or sleep.

Sometimes when sleeping next to someone just their energy (good or bad) will keep you awake. Even if they are just sleeping and not touching you. It is best for a empath to sleep free of shielding. Shielding takes a lot of energy so you are going to wake up feeling drained. The person might have good intension and want to show you love, but what they don't understand is their energy changes with every thought. It may start out loving, but can quickly change.

If you are single without kids you should be able to arrange your schedule for sleep. I know life is crazy, but you have seen crazy until you are woke up 10 times a night because of monsters, sickness, or bad dreams. If you have kids and are single sleep is hard to come by, but manageable. Being creative is key. If you are in a living together relationship with or without kids sleep is hard to come by. Below are some tricks to help you find sleep and not go into empath overload.

Single no kids

1. Set aside at least 1 lazy day a week. Get movies and just relax all day. No cleaning. No homework. No people. Lock yourself up and just be. This allows you body time to recharge. Watching movies puts your mind into an alpha brainwave state this is a light hypnosis.
2. Make sure you have enough time to sleep at night. Go to bed at a proper time to get good rest. Empaths need more sleep so 10 to 12 hours would be ideal. In this day and age that can't happen for many people so see option #1.

Single with kids

1. If you co-sleep with your kids at least part time wait until they fall asleep and move to the couch or their bed. This give you at least an hour of just your energy. For an empath parent this is enough to keep you going. Try to get more alone sleep.
2. Have a camp out (watching a movie and sleeping in the living room) with them and sleep on the couch or move to your room.
3. Try to get something for them to do in the am that doesn't make noise so you can sleep in. That is if they are old enough to be alone in the am.
4. Make sure bedtime is early enough for you to get sleep. Don't clean while they are sleeping. Go to bed!

In a living together relationship

1. You are going to have to be honest that you need space for your energy. Fingers crossed they understand.
2. If it gets to be to much go sleep somewhere else. I do this sometimes.
3. Sleep on the edge of the bed. I also do this.
4. Get twin beds or a California king.
5. Before bed shield and ground. Pull your aura in tight to your body seeing it golden. Then ground your energy. There are time for shielding and times for not. If you are sleeping next to someone this is a shielding time.
6. It may sound weird, but having loving energy flowing and cuddling works the best for both parties. This is because loving energy is uplifting not draining.

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Becoming a Conscious Empath Intro

Most people either empath or not are very comfortable within their suffering. This is why they continue to suffer. They find ways to make it a little better, but they never try to liberate themselves. Or very few do anyway. I am finding this a lot in the empath community. There are numerous articles, posts, and videos on how to survive as an empath. Not one tells you how to liberate yourself, how to own your gift, how to use you gift to heal the world.  

Until now...My whole mission in life is to get as many people liberated from their self induced hell as possible. Today we focus on the empaths. I saw that empaths like myself have no advise on how to live without protecting ourselves. We do not need to stay in the victim mindset. We can be free to live. We do not have to be overwhelmed with everyone's "stuff". I wanted to live not just survive so I set out to do just that. I developed tools so I could live and still stay in my power as a empath.

What is a conscious empath? This is first a person living consciously. A person that is not going on life in autopilot or in fear. They are not in a victim mindset. They are truly living in the moment not just surviving this human experience. They make their choices based on intuition first and logic second. They are becoming free!

Then second a conscious empath is of course an empath. A person that feels others emotions as their own​ and/or physical symptoms. This includes empaths that feel people, animals, plants, the Earth, and the collective. This conscious empath steps into their power and work here on Earth. They consciously heal themselves then they take others feelings and heal them too. This is done by grounding the feelings or transmutting them (changing them to light).

What is not a conscious empath? A conscious empath dose not run from their gift. They do not just accept that they attract the worst relationships around. Conscious empaths do not allow others to violate their boundaries.

What to I do start to become a conscious empath?

1. Get real with yourself. You need to start to feel your feelings. This will be uncomfortable because, most likely, you are like most empaths and try not to feel. It's like opening the flood gates.
2. Be prepared to be overwhelmed. A lot is going to start to come at you. You won't know what is your emotions and what isn't. Hang in there.
3. Natural medicine is better for living consciously. Talk to a homeopathic doctor about options. Most empaths have anxiety, depression, and some mood disorders. Or you may start to get them when you start to feel. Work through it, itwill go away as long as you move forward.
4. Heal your emotions. Remember you are a being of light. You have so much power within. To step into your power you need to heal first.
5. Set boundaries. You should have time to yourself everyday. Family and friends will have to deal with that. It is important that you have time to ground, meditate, and sleep. Get in nature just 20 minutes a day or so. Nature naturally clears your energy. Read about that here Empaths Setting Boundaries.
6. Have a strong aura. This is a form of protection and shielding, but it is necessary to start to feel what emotions are yours and what are not. Plus if you have to be in a large group this will safe you from anxiety attacks. Do not have this up all the time to hide from emotions. You want to start to control your gift, to do that you have to feel. It is an emergency type thing.
7. Listen to your intuition. Once you start to allow your intuition (higher self) to take over. This enhances your abilities.
8. Give yourself time. It takes time to sort out emotions. Keep checking in with yourself on how you feel. When you leave a room to you feel different?
9. Once you have a handle on emotions you can start to play with and increase the strength of your power. Can you turn on and off your power? Can you lessen the feeling of others emotions in your body? Can you feel others emotions in a room even after they left?

This is enough to get you started. Stay tuned for more.

Empath
by AwakenedRabbit

Empaths and Anger

As an empathy being angry will cause us to pull back from the situation. We don't want to feel angry and we sure don't want to feel others anger. So we pull back and do whatever we need to do to solve the issue. Perhaps we give in and let the other person have there way because then we only feel our emotions. Or we pull way back and become emotionless to the whole situation. Saying it doesn't matter anymore. When the emotions get to thick that we just feel like we are being chocked. The anxiety sets in and we can't breathe. Our typical survival mode would be to become emotionless.

When dealing with others anger it can be very hard to remain calm and hold a space for them to express themselves. We feel their anger and become angry ourselves. Then we are dealing with double the anger.  We empaths are here to allow others to vent as we ground or transmute the energy.

A trick I use when dealing with others anger, mainly my son's, is to ground myself and pull my aura in tight to my body. Then keep a distance from them and anyone else, a few feet should do. I keep asking myself what am I feeling. As long as I hold a calm mind I can get closer and be able to sit and hold a space for him to just vent. Letting others talk or yell it out is best. Do not allow your ego to get involved. This will trigger your anger and now your open to feel their anger as well. This can only lead to an explosion of anger.

If you explode you should get away from everyone. Go to the bathroom if you have to. Do grounding and put all of the emotions into the Earth. Ask yourself ​why you are mad and how can this be solved. Get out of your ego and back into a space of love. Focus on the heart center. You can even see a time you experienced pure love. This quickly moves you from anger vibration to love vibration.

Go back to the person now vibrating at the level of love. Express your feelings. Then propose your solutions. Now shut up and step into the empath power. Allow them to vent. Stay grounded and "see" their feelings either going into the ground or being transmuted (changed) into light. The violet flame is very useful for this.

Sacred Relationships for Healing the world

If you are part of a sacred relationship then you are part of the group healing all relationship trauma. We are clearing the way for a new way to have relationships. We all agreed to this work before coming here. This is healing our personal blocks, the insecurities and trauma. We are also healing blocks in our DNA. This is a big job and if you don't have a strong relationship it can totally cause issues. Especially if you don't know what is going on.

I have experienced this first hand. From the beginning of our sacred union sexual blocks have come up. Some are personal and we can say why this is happening. Others are not and we are like WTF is this about. The rest of our relationship is solid, thank God. We have both said, "I've never had this block before". We work through it and are reward with a soul merging experience. Then another block comes up.

It is important to note that not all sacred unions are working on sexual blocks. It is also important to note that once you have cleared the blocks in one area of your relationship you guys many choose to clear other areas. Or you could be working on many areas at a time. It really depends on where your souls are at and why you decided to do this work.

As we are working through these blocks I have noticed some tricks that others might find handy.

1. Understanding - this is really key. Be understanding of what is coming up. Be loving. Be helpful.
2. Keep your ego in check. The ego has no place in healing. Don't take offense to what is happening.
3. Be open minded. What "worked" before may not "work" now. Be willing to try new things. Once the block is cleared you can go back to what "worked" before
4. Connection- you know you have a connection. Keep this open or nothing is getting cleared.
5. If one of you is an empath or healer. Use your power to assist in the healing.
6. Sometimes powering through is best and sometimes time is best.
7. Honor your body. If you are having a block say something. Then work on it as a team.

Empaths Self Healing To Heal Others

Most empaths are in need of major healing in one way or another. We started out feeling this world way to deeply and in order to survive we became addicted to forms of escape. This includes drugs, alcohol, completely detaching emotionally​, becoming loners, and much more. In short we are messed up with anxiety and depression to go with it. Some even have serious mood disorders.

It is time to heal. The world is changing and more people are kind and loving now. It is safe to feel again. The world needs our gift to take the negativity and transmute it to light. The world needs the deep healing of wounds in our DNA and theirs. The world needs conscious empaths. Not empaths that allow the feelings to come in, but empaths that use this ability to consciously heal others.

How do we start stepping into our ability? Besides stoping addictive behavior we need to start to feel again. This is very uncomfortable and will cause anxiety. Meditation will help. Staying grounded will help. And natural calming oils and teas will help. Trips to nature will help. And above all else time to yourself​. Now if your a parent like me some days getting the alone time is almost impossible. Do a fast body resetter, just close your eyes, clear your mind, and be in the still, focus on your breath if this helps. Then see white, violet, or gold light wash over you clearing all negativity.

How do we start to feel? The explosive emotions will be easier to feel. Like anger and sadness. Start by checking in with yourself often. How do I feel? Are these my feelings or someone else's?

Start to set boundaries. This is sooooo important and so uncomfortable. People don't like you having boundaries. At times you may feel it is easier than to allow others to violate your boundaries. Stick to your ground. You deserve to feel good too. Let me say that again you deserve to feel good too.

Stay grounded. When someone starts to tell you a story of their past or a situation this is the time to quickly ground. They are telling you so you can ground this energy or transmute it. You are assisting in their healing. The faster you ground the less of their emotions you will feel. You can now be present and hold a space for them without judgement or being overwhelmed. This is part of how we heal others. Step into this power!

Keep your aura clear. "Wash" it daily and probably many times a day with white, violet, or gold light. You can also move your hands all through the it intending to clear negativity. There are many other ways, but this will get you started.

Next face your emotional blocks. We have so many it's unreal. Everytime someone didn't approve of us, didn't listen, or hurt us we built a wall to protect ourselves. We need to face these walls and take them down. When you start to heal these hurts and these blocks you can then offer that healing to others. You can then say yes I've been there this is how I healed. Your energy changes in your aura too. You can now hold a healed spaced for the certian hurt. Even if you are not a healer you still have this power. Just by healing yourself you now can set an intension to hold that healing space for others. This is how we transmute the negativity. Step into this power.

Empaths and Receiving

Most empaths have a hard time receiving. This is do to them feeling so very deeply. Empaths give love freely when they have not closed off from the world. But the world dose not give love freely. Often the love given is conditional love, this is either consciously or unconsciously.

At an early age empaths learn most people are very self involved and only want to be around you if you have something to offer. Even our parents did this if you are good you get a to be around them if you were not you are grounded to your room. Our whole world is based around conditional love.

As children empaths start to become the givers of the world. They give love freely in hopes to teach the world by example.

Unfortunately this is not how the world acts. The world takes and takes. The empath then becomes uncomfortable receiving anything because they know it almost always comes with conditions. These are either conscious or subconscious but we know they are there. Sometimes the condition is just them calling in a favor sometime down the road. The feeling of being in debt to people is very uncomfortable and most empaths would rather not deal with it. We also know on some level the person feels we must help them if they helped us. We find it is much less hassle to do things on our own then feel the conditions of getting help.

So how do we start to receive? You know everyone does everything for a reason even you. If you have worked with your gift as an empath you will just know the reason why they are doing something for you. Ask yourself if you can accept the reason they have to help you. If so they accept the thing they are trying to help you with. Now if you are not to the point if just knowing what people's motivation is for doing something for you, you are going to have to get uncomfortable. Ask them why they are doing it. Can you live with that reason? If so accept the thing.

It is important to note that not everyone is out to get something from you. People do things for all reasons. Including feeling guilty, wanting to help because it makes them feel good, they are also empathic and can feel you need it, and many more reasons that are not bad.

Start to ask yourself why you are doing things for others. This will help you see that you have a reason for everything you do also. Maybe even go as far as to tell others why you are doing what you are doing. Also in the moment of receiving if you are feeling weird ask yourself why does this feel weird? The more you talk to yourself and get to your feelings the more you can heal. As always in healing yourself you heal the world.

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