Empaths Setting Boundaries

Once you find out that you are an empath and start to take action in getting your life back you will find that the first thing you should do is form healthy boundaries. Empaths have horrible boundaries. We can feel others disappointments in us when we say no. Out of not wanting to feel this we fall in a self sacrificing routine. We would rather suffer then feel the disappointment of another.  

What we don’t see is self sacrificing is causing more pain and blocks in our energy channels. The more blocks we gather the less we are able to transmute the negative emotions we encounter. So I say to you stop!!! Easier said than done I know. I still find myself wanting to fall into that pattern, but I stop and take the disappointment from the other person.  

What are boundaries? 

A boundary is something that affects you incoming and outgoing interactions with others. It is what is right or wrong for you personally. Everyone will have their own personal set of boundaries. One person may like to be hugged a lot others may not like touching. For me sometime I have to limit touching because I take on 10x more emotions of others when touching someone. When I am trying to get my emotions under control and grounded or transmuted I can't have others emotions coming in and distorting mine. It feels the same as when you are a mom trying to read something important and your kids is trying to talk to you. You can't focus on both now a new emotion of anger is created. This emotion now needs to be dealt with. So one of my boundaries is space sometimes. By finding this boundary I am able to function better with others and in expressing this boundary to my loved ones they are able to function better with me.  

What are ways we allow our boundaries to be crossed? 

• We say no when we mean yes or say yes when we mean no. We may agree to work an extra shift when we don't want to. Or may say no to another cookie because others may think bad of us. 
• Acting against your values to please others. Your friends may all want to drive drunk, but you don't want to and you do it anyway. 
• Not speaking your truth. A lot of us have gifts like being an empath, but we don't tell others because of what they would think. 
• Taking on others beliefs to be liked. As kids we all did this. Be it religion, speak only when spoken to, respect your elder regardless of how they treat you, you must love your family regardless of how they treat you... 
• Not speaking up for yourself. Someone puts you down and you allow it and may even start to believe it. 
• Allowing physical touch when you don't want it. This was a hard one for me I would feel other physical wants as my own and just go with it. When I was not touching them found out it was not my need, but it was done. When my hands touch people I can feel their needs, pain, and emotions as my own.  
• Stopping what you are doing to do something for others. Any parents out there do this? Sometimes it is needed and sometimes it is not. 
• Not stating your needs. You really want your partner to massage your back because it hurts, but don’t ask for it. 

How do we find our boundaries? 

• Feeling guilty when you say no or upset when you say yes. This means you are going against your boundaries 
• Trust your feelings!!!!!!! They lead you every time to your boundaries. 
• Make a list every time you feel upset that you did or said something.  

Victim Consciousness in the Work Place

Victim consciousness is a big problem in this day and age, but today we will work on the victim consciousness in the work place. Lately it has become very clear at my work that this is a serious issue. That my co-workers are all stressed out over things that are not actually their problem. The boss made it their problem to deflect it from being his problem. We need to start to pull ourselves out of this very outdated way of thinking.

First how is this caused?

The work environment is set up to keep you in a low vibrational state... in a state of do what you are told and don't ask questions. Which is what most of us do. Orders come down from the big boss in charge and trickle down to the low man on the chain. Side note this is my position at work. I personally am not the lowest person, but my position that I share with a lot of people is the lowest position. Anyway.... So the big boss says why are we not very productive? Every boss blames it on the workers below them. Then you get to the lowest man and their boss says work harder and faster. The lowest man says ok and will complain to their co-workers, but not stand up for themselves. Why? They are in victim consciousness they have been conditioned to think it is their fault, they do need to work harder. They are scared of getting fired or punished in some way.

How can I stop this?

First to change you must admit there is a problem. Ask yourself am I really working as hard as I can? Am I killing myself for this job? What would make this job easier? Almost always you are working as hard as you can. You are pretty much killing yourself to get this job done. To make it easier would be the company spending money, getting more help or better equipment.

Once you have found the solution come up with a game plan of how this would help and the best way to include it in your day. Keep this in mind or write it down so you don't forget anything. It would be smart to have it with you always.

Next make sure your work is the best you can do without killing yourself. Make sure you are on time and always show up. If you are not bein the best employee you can be then this will be much harder.

Now when you are approached with the work harder speech pull out your plan. Explain your good qualities and how you are do everything you can, but you are not going to kill yourself for this job. Then explain the plan. Say if I don't have what I need to do the job how do you expect me to do it?

Final Thoughts

Start to free yourself from the bondage of your mind. You are the one allowing yourself to be the victim. On step at a time start to claim your power. You are your own person and deserve to be treated with respect. Start now come out of the victim consciousness and stand in your power.

This is my secret to happiness at work. My co-workers are all stressed out and I love my job. I don't let the bosses try to make me feel bad for the company trying to save money. I do what I can with what I have. I also tell them that I didn't see them helping out and if it was such a big deal then they should help out when we ask for it.

Challeneges and Tips for Ascension 2-28 to 3-5

On my facebook page I post challenges to increase your awareness and breakdown old outdated beliefs. I also post tips to help you along your path as well. Our facebook page can be found here.

Challenge 2-28-17

I am challenging you to break an old belief. This belief is we can only eat certain foods at certain times of the day.

Why do we do this? Our parents told us that dinner foods are not breakfast foods and vise versa. We didn't question it and now we tell our kids the same. STOP reacting and start thinking.

Is it so bad to have let's say broccoli and cheese with some pork chops for breakfast? It is a pretty good for you meal you have meat, veggie, cheese. How often do you eat vegetables for breakfast? Add in a smoothie and you have fruits too. Or why can't you have bacon, pancakes, eggs for dinner?
I'm asking you to rethink this belief. Why do you believe it? Does it really matter what you eat when as long as it is healthy. If you do try a new food at a different time then it is normally eaten let me know. I love to see people break away from old limiting beliefs.

Challenge 3-2-17

With the idea of building self love I have created this challenge. First we are here to learn unconditional love. This is of self and others. You must learn to love yourself before you can truly love someone else unconditionally.

Here is how it is done. Find a time once a day preferably at bedtime to say at least one thing you did right to start off. Increase the number as you feel needed.

Expand this more and say at least one thing everyday to your loved ones that they did good. Maybe during a meal or at bedtime.

I love that you are all here raising your vibration with me

Dream work 3-5-17

Dreams are very helpful in many areas. Dreams are your personal therapist. If you use them correctly. Some dreams are just day review. How you get past this day review of the subconscious mind is you before bed do your own day review in reverse. So start with the last thing you did and go backwards through your day. It is very beneficial to do this with gratitude especially the negative stuff. Just be thankful for the lesson/experience and move on. This also sets you up for a better tomorrow. Once that is done you can now thinking about what you want to ask or do in your dream. Remember to journal your dreams so you know what they are telling you.

Challenge 3-5-17

We all see things everyday that we don't agree with a few examples are GMOs, fluoride, chemtrails, political... And do on. What are we to do if we ignore it we are part of the issue, if we get angry we are part of the issue. So what do we do?

1.We start by stating this is not happening any longer. ...
2. We say however this plays out let it be for the greatest good of all humanity. (There is divine intervention all over these days we are safe. Some things are still in play because humanity needs to wake up. They need to snap and say I don't want this.) Say I bind this and send it all the way back to source.
3. Next send love into the collective grid. send healing, balance, and harmony.
4. Last be part of the change. Activity helping the change is better. Grow your own food, get filters for the fluoride. And share stories of cities changing into what you want to see.